At the begining of every year, it’s ideal to sit quietly for a moment and assess how your co-parneting relationship is going and how your child(ren) is doing.
I believe that every day is a new day to forgive, try something different, become a better parent, and/ or design your children’s live for the best possible outcomes.
Personally, I will continue to balance my personal needs for dating privacy with my exhusbands, while simonaeously inviting them into my home and family homes for holidays, birthdays, and other family related outings. In the previous year, I spent the most holiday and family outings time with my exhusband. The kids seemed to be at a deeper level peace because they shared time with us together and saw that we had become friends. Althugh I may not consider my exhusbands friends, as we co=parnet together, become as flexible as we can, and live with our children’s best interest in mind, we became allies… all of the small stuff melts away when you realize there needs to be a team effort.
This is not to say that these moments didn’t come at a cost. I’ve been through eye-rolling conversations, de-escalated arguements, had to share family time and uninvite boyfriends for the comfort of my exhusband for holidays, and a never-ending list of frustrations to make sure my children don’t have to witness the anger and hurt I feel over my divorces.
The good news is… it’s working!!!!
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Dr. LeeAnne Del Rio
